I think about this topic often when I see my beautiful girls growing up so quickly before my eyes - who will my daughters marry. Why type of man will God send into their lives to be their husband. I think of these things not because I want to marry them off asap, but because this is such a huge step and I want to make sure that our Lord and Savior is priority in the relationship. I pray that God brings a man into their lives at His perfect timing - that will be men who seek after God's own heart... and who will love my daughters like the bible instructs.
But this prayer has now spread out to some beautiful women - whom I consider part of our family - and those are the "Daughters of the King" that attend our CrossLife Young Adult Ministry. A few days ago as I spoke to one of them - she shared how Ray - my husband is so protective of our group... and he is. I guess its because you develop a beautiful relationship with them and your desire, your prayer is for them to grow in the Word and in their relationship with the Lord and I guess with time - you do become protective (not in a possessive way) but in a way where you love them, look out for them and want the best for them and their lives in all areas. I have seen how many of them have blossomed. They came into our group like little buds and now you can see how they are growing and maturing - its just so beautiful!!! And to see how the desire of their heart has changed and how they desire to serve Him. I sit and look at them and listen to them and see so many beautiful and wonderful qualities, I pray that the man that the Lord sends to their lives is able to appreciate those qualities and gifts and be able to love them and encourage them...
So I share this blog entry I have bookmarked - as what I am praying for my daughters but also for the beautiful ladies of our CrossLife group. I want to encourage them to read over this list and to begin praying for their future husband - if it is God's will - for their lives... its never too early to begin to pray for every area of their life...
The Kind of Guy We Pray for Our Daughters to Marry
- A dedicated believer of the same doctrine, equipped to lead and teach her and his family
- Motivated by a sincere desire to glorify God through his life and the life of his family
- Faithful in his church attendance and service in the church
- Involved in work and service that would benefit from a wife’s help and support
- Well-established in his vocational direction
- Financially free
- Teachable – seeks counsel, does not isolate himself in decisions, responds humbly to correction and suggestions
- A one-woman man – has saved himself for his wife
- Sexually discreet – not flirtatious
- Self-disciplined
- Respected by those who know him and work with him
- Responsible – keeps his word and his commitments
- Humbly under authority – in home, in church, under civil law
- A student of God’s Word, seriously looking to it for guidance in all areas of life.
- Committed to homeschooling his children and in leading/participating in the schooling
- Committed to providing for his family and allowing his wife to care for the family at home
- Honest – does not try to appear to be something he is not, does not misrepresent facts
- Does not speak evil of others
- Words are supported by his actions
- A hard worker
- A servant’s heart, supported by action
- Strong leadership qualities demonstrated in his life
- A man who will lead our daughter and their children in holiness and service
- Money saved or vocational training that has fairly certain future
Ultimately, we want our daughters and their husbands to be able to say, “I see your flaws and imperfections, but underneath, I see what God wants to make you. I want to be a part of that.”
(Closing paragraph from Speaking the Truth in Love by Pastor Dennis Tuuri)
Article from DoorPosts Blog
Now just as a side note - I have taken this from DoorPost Blog - and didn't change it. Some things you may be in agreement with and others you may not... but I hope you take away the message that is being shared and not bits and pieces
